Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Self-Improvement

  • Kill Your Ego

    We are socially programmed to want new/better/special things. We want to “keep up with the Jones’s”. We want everyone on social media to know how happy and fun and special our lives are. But when you stop and ask yourself, do you really want these things? Why? What need is it fulfilling? I remember when…

  • How do you Negotiate with Yourself?

    Do you have a healthy inner voice? When you are struggling, do you talk yourself up like you would a friend or family member you support? Or do you get down on yourself and tell yourself you’re a failure? The secret to success is to be your own cheerleader. When you’re alone and you’re struggling,…

  • The Best Revenge is None

    They say the opposite of love is not hate, the opposite of love is indifference. The truest test of your progress or closure about the end of a relationship is whether you can truly just nothing them. The ends of relationships can be so emotionally hurtful. When you’ve been together for awhile, you know what…

  • Find Your People

    There are people in this world that will never support you. They will decide not to like you for their own reasons. There are only so many things you can do to change their mind and you will expend boat loads of energy trying to get them on your team. Only you can decide if…

  • Stop Breaking Your Own Heart

    Only you can choose who you let into your life. There are so many studies that talk about how you are influenced most by the six or so people you spend the most time with. Whether this is your family, your co-workers, your running buddies, friends, or neighbors, this shapes who and how you are.…

  • Making a Contribution

    Winning isn’t everything. In fact, winning isn’t much at all in the end. Progress is the win. Effort is the win. Improvement is the win. I’ve participated in a lot of “races”. I put it in quotes because not once have I actually been in competition for a place on a podium. But every single…

  • Audit Your Circle

    There are a lot of studies that show that surrounding yourself with successful people improves the likelihood that you too will be successful. Define success however you want, but you are more likely to accomplish your goals if you surround yourself with people who are similarly driven and have similar goals. The opposite is true…

  • Just Keep Swimming

    I’ve written about consistency before. It’s crucial. It’s important. And sometimes it’s hard as hell. Consistency without the results you want is just about the most frustrating thing ever. When you work and you struggle and you are consistent and you don’t see the payoff you’re looking for, the devastation is tougher than usual. You…

  • Where’s Your Money?

    I recently read an article that says 56% of women married to men leave the financial planning and investment decisions to their husbands. The same article shared the statistic that 80% of women lose their spouse to death or divorce. Regardless of gender, in a lot of relationships there’s one person that “handles the finances”.…

  • Anger is Hard

    It’s easy to get mad. But it is a response, not a cause. You aren’t just angry for the sake of it, you’re angry BECAUSE of something. Think of this when your partner is angry or lashing out. Why are they angry? What’s causing this? If you can manage to look at that piece rather…