Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Self-Improvement

  • Who Do You Think You Are?

    Do you ever hear people describing you and completely disagree with their assessment? My dad will describe me to people using works like “brave” and “ambitious” and “confident”, and I have no idea who he’s talking about because it most definitely isn’t me. I think of myself as shy and socially awkward. I would call…

  • (Re)Building Confidence

    Sometimes things happen in life that shake us to our core. Other times it’s not any particular incident, but the erosion over time when daily challenges get in the way of our self-care. We find ourselves older and less confident or capable than we’ve ever felt. Often during or after a divorce my clients are…

  • Handling the Hardest

    What do we do when the world gets too hard? How do we deal when every headline is devastating news and we feel powerless? I am constantly torn between needing to do something and needing to bury my head in the sand. We can do both, but it must be with intention. You must take…

  • Communication is King (or Queen)

    This may come as a shock to learn, but what we say matters less than how we say it. You can only communicate effectively when you know and adjust to your audience. If your audience isn’t listening, you may as well be alone in the room. And as we evolve into a society that communicates…

  • Burnout

    If you’re like me or literally every one of my peers, you are experiencing or are teetering on the brink of burnout. We’ve been in the workforce for a decade or two now, we’ve started (and sometimes ended) relationships, we’re parenting, we’re becoming managers, we’re buying houses, we’re paying bills. We aren’t taking care of…

  • Start Somewhere

    I’ve written before about the paralysis of analysis. We get so overwhelmed by the “bigness” of a goal that we just shut down. Just start. It doesn’t have to be good – it probably won’t be. You will be embarrassed, you’ll look back later and laugh at yourself, you will probably wish you’d done it…

  • Judgment Free Zone

    Think back through all the times you have passed judgment on yourself. All the times you’ve said something cringy or put on a piece of clothing and poked at bulges or gaps. Think about all the times you have done worse at something than you expected, disappointed yourself, been embarrassed, been ashamed. And then erase…

  • What Does Boldness Look Like?

    I’ve heard people saying “Be Bold” my entire life. That is so abstract though, what does it even mean? What does boldness look like for you? Does it mean not going to college and pursing a career in acting or sales? Does it mean living in a different country where you don’t have friends or…

  • Do you Give your Time to the Things that Matter Most?

    In financial discussions, we talk about values-based budgets – you spend your money on the things you care about the most whether it’s travel or nice clothes or fancy restaurants. But we know that we have a limited amount of money to spend so we prioritize. Do you prioritize with your time? The concept is…

  • Know Your Audience

    Words have power. We know that. But words have different meanings to different people and we need to remember that as well. I am firm believer that poor communication is the cause of every problem in the world. Maybe not every but just about. Every divorce case I have worked on has come down to…