Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Relationships

  • Handling the Hardest

    What do we do when the world gets too hard? How do we deal when every headline is devastating news and we feel powerless? I am constantly torn between needing to do something and needing to bury my head in the sand. We can do both, but it must be with intention. You must take…

  • Communication is King (or Queen)

    This may come as a shock to learn, but what we say matters less than how we say it. You can only communicate effectively when you know and adjust to your audience. If your audience isn’t listening, you may as well be alone in the room. And as we evolve into a society that communicates…

  • Start Somewhere

    I’ve written before about the paralysis of analysis. We get so overwhelmed by the “bigness” of a goal that we just shut down. Just start. It doesn’t have to be good – it probably won’t be. You will be embarrassed, you’ll look back later and laugh at yourself, you will probably wish you’d done it…

  • Do you Give your Time to the Things that Matter Most?

    In financial discussions, we talk about values-based budgets – you spend your money on the things you care about the most whether it’s travel or nice clothes or fancy restaurants. But we know that we have a limited amount of money to spend so we prioritize. Do you prioritize with your time? The concept is…

  • Know Your Audience

    Words have power. We know that. But words have different meanings to different people and we need to remember that as well. I am firm believer that poor communication is the cause of every problem in the world. Maybe not every but just about. Every divorce case I have worked on has come down to…

  • All things to All people

    We can’t be everything. I am the worst at this. At various points in my life I have absolutely been the Yes girl who never lets anyone down, never says I don’t know how to help, never says I don’t have the time. I will be there for everyone all the time for everything forever.…

  • You Don’t Have to do the Hard Stuff Alone

    By it’s very nature, hard stuff is difficult to handle. The end of a relationship, the end of a job, and uncertain future, grief, loss, fear. These are all things that often try to deal with on our own. But we don’t have to! And honestly, we shouldn’t be dealing with this stuff on our…

  • Perspective is Hard

    Do you ever find yourself in an argument and you just do not understand why the other person has taken the position they have? They’re just ignoring all the brilliant facts you are presenting, or they are being petty and personal, or they are just. so. angry.? Have you ever stopped and tried to figure…

  • Being the Villain

    Being the bad guy is hard for a lot of us. Strong boundaries and being “mean mommy” goes against the nature of a lot of people for a lot of reasons. For children of trauma, reducing conflict is a gut instinct. For people accustomed to excess, strict rules and processes may not come naturally. Those…

  • Pride

    Do you remember the last time you actually stopped and were proud of yourself? I am terrible at this. I don’t know if this is a me thing or a woman thing or a family thing or just society in general, but I’m terrible at giving myself accolades. This is especially ridiculous for me because…