Handling The Hard Stuff

Handling the Hard Stuff: A Blog about Life and How to Deal

Set It and Forget It Finances

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by budgets and financial decisions and paying off debt and saving for retirement and all the things you’re supposed to be doing when you’re in the throes of adulting. But when you filter it down just a little there are a few simple things you can set up and take…

July 26, 2023
Free up your free time

In a world where we are supposed to be immediately accessible at all times because of email and texts and social media, it is easy to get overwhelmed by the noise technology brings to our lives. The flip side is that technology and automation can bring a lot of freedom to our lives if we…

July 24, 2023
Life is a Garden

I’ve gotten really into gardening lately and I find a lot of metaphors for life apply to plants.

July 18, 2023
You Don’t Have to Be Polite

Were you raised from an early age to not make waves? If you’re like me, you were taught to not cause problems. Don’t be difficult. Hug people you don’t want to hug, be nice to people even when they’re not nice to you, participate in the gathering you don’t want to be part of just…

July 14, 2023
Use Your Words

Stop being okay with things you are really not ok with. Being a good person is not the same thing as being willing to suffer in silence and not make waves. Being kind is not the same as being a doormat. You can be kind and still advocate for yourself or others. It is important…

July 12, 2023
Mantra Magic

For those of us that struggle with positive self-talk, or at least remembering to plug into our positive self-talk, mantras can be really helpful. In my mind a mantra is like the headline to the full newspaper article. If we’ve read the article, the headline can trigger us to remember the information in the larger…

July 10, 2023
Kill Your Ego

We are socially programmed to want new/better/special things. We want to “keep up with the Jones’s”. We want everyone on social media to know how happy and fun and special our lives are. But when you stop and ask yourself, do you really want these things? Why? What need is it fulfilling? I remember when…

July 7, 2023
How do you Negotiate with Yourself?

Do you have a healthy inner voice? When you are struggling, do you talk yourself up like you would a friend or family member you support? Or do you get down on yourself and tell yourself you’re a failure? The secret to success is to be your own cheerleader. When you’re alone and you’re struggling,…

July 5, 2023
Seasons of Life

We are not meant to be achieving at the same level forever. So many parts of nature have seasons of productivity and seasons of dormancy, why wouldn’t we be meant for the same? I am my own worst critic when it comes to my productivity. I must be doing something, making something, contributing something, achieving…

June 15, 2023
The Best Revenge is None

They say the opposite of love is not hate, the opposite of love is indifference. The truest test of your progress or closure about the end of a relationship is whether you can truly just nothing them. The ends of relationships can be so emotionally hurtful. When you’ve been together for awhile, you know what…

June 12, 2023