Handling The Hard Stuff

Category: Personal Development

  • Life is a Garden

    I’ve gotten really into gardening lately and I find a lot of metaphors for life apply to plants.

  • You Don’t Have to Be Polite

    Were you raised from an early age to not make waves? If you’re like me, you were taught to not cause problems. Don’t be difficult. Hug people you don’t want to hug, be nice to people even when they’re not nice to you, participate in the gathering you don’t want to be part of just…

  • Use Your Words

    Stop being okay with things you are really not ok with. Being a good person is not the same thing as being willing to suffer in silence and not make waves. Being kind is not the same as being a doormat. You can be kind and still advocate for yourself or others. It is important…

  • Mantra Magic

    For those of us that struggle with positive self-talk, or at least remembering to plug into our positive self-talk, mantras can be really helpful. In my mind a mantra is like the headline to the full newspaper article. If we’ve read the article, the headline can trigger us to remember the information in the larger…

  • Kill Your Ego

    We are socially programmed to want new/better/special things. We want to “keep up with the Jones’s”. We want everyone on social media to know how happy and fun and special our lives are. But when you stop and ask yourself, do you really want these things? Why? What need is it fulfilling? I remember when…

  • How do you Negotiate with Yourself?

    Do you have a healthy inner voice? When you are struggling, do you talk yourself up like you would a friend or family member you support? Or do you get down on yourself and tell yourself you’re a failure? The secret to success is to be your own cheerleader. When you’re alone and you’re struggling,…

  • Seasons of Life

    We are not meant to be achieving at the same level forever. So many parts of nature have seasons of productivity and seasons of dormancy, why wouldn’t we be meant for the same? I am my own worst critic when it comes to my productivity. I must be doing something, making something, contributing something, achieving…

  • The Best Revenge is None

    They say the opposite of love is not hate, the opposite of love is indifference. The truest test of your progress or closure about the end of a relationship is whether you can truly just nothing them. The ends of relationships can be so emotionally hurtful. When you’ve been together for awhile, you know what…

  • Find Your People

    There are people in this world that will never support you. They will decide not to like you for their own reasons. There are only so many things you can do to change their mind and you will expend boat loads of energy trying to get them on your team. Only you can decide if…

  • Stop Breaking Your Own Heart

    Only you can choose who you let into your life. There are so many studies that talk about how you are influenced most by the six or so people you spend the most time with. Whether this is your family, your co-workers, your running buddies, friends, or neighbors, this shapes who and how you are.…