Handling The Hard Stuff

Category: Future

  • Burnout

    If you’re like me or literally every one of my peers, you are experiencing or are teetering on the brink of burnout. We’ve been in the workforce for a decade or two now, we’ve started (and sometimes ended) relationships, we’re parenting, we’re becoming managers, we’re buying houses, we’re paying bills. We aren’t taking care of…

  • Start Somewhere

    I’ve written before about the paralysis of analysis. We get so overwhelmed by the “bigness” of a goal that we just shut down. Just start. It doesn’t have to be good – it probably won’t be. You will be embarrassed, you’ll look back later and laugh at yourself, you will probably wish you’d done it…

  • Judgment Free Zone

    Think back through all the times you have passed judgment on yourself. All the times you’ve said something cringy or put on a piece of clothing and poked at bulges or gaps. Think about all the times you have done worse at something than you expected, disappointed yourself, been embarrassed, been ashamed. And then erase…

  • What Does Boldness Look Like?

    I’ve heard people saying “Be Bold” my entire life. That is so abstract though, what does it even mean? What does boldness look like for you? Does it mean not going to college and pursing a career in acting or sales? Does it mean living in a different country where you don’t have friends or…

  • Do you Give your Time to the Things that Matter Most?

    In financial discussions, we talk about values-based budgets – you spend your money on the things you care about the most whether it’s travel or nice clothes or fancy restaurants. But we know that we have a limited amount of money to spend so we prioritize. Do you prioritize with your time? The concept is…

  • Know Your Audience

    Words have power. We know that. But words have different meanings to different people and we need to remember that as well. I am firm believer that poor communication is the cause of every problem in the world. Maybe not every but just about. Every divorce case I have worked on has come down to…

  • Everyone Starts Somewhere

    It’s hard to keep things in perspective in this world of Insta/Pinterest/Reality curated everything. We hear everyone’s miraculous story about making bajillions of dollars selling printables on Etsy or losing thirty pounds almost instantly with whatever magical weight-loss plan they’re peddling and, at least for me, it can be disheartening. I am constantly fighting the…

  • Sometimes You Leap

    I saw a quote recently from Mel Robbins that said “Start before you’re ready. Don’t prepare, begin.” I am soo not that person. I think things to death. I overanalyze every decision and have to talk things through with at least three different people and a pro/con list before I can make any decisions. But…

  • Wanting wealth is not a bad thing!

    This feels like such a controversial statement in a knee-jerk kind of way. I have spent my career helping the underprivileged and working with non-profits and I come from an area with a lot of poverty. My parents were civil servants and no one in my family ever encouraged wealth or prosperity. I was raised,…

  • Faking it With Style

    I don’t know about you, but I have a REAL solid case of imposter syndrome. It’s gotten better with age, but I constantly live with the belief that other people know more than I do. So I’ve developed some tricks to fool myself into believing I can do whatever thing has me overwhelmed in the…