Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Self-Improvement

  • Every Little Bit Helps

    It’s easy to get overwhelmed by a project or a goal or a wish. This time of year our grand plans for making 2023 the best year ever may be falling by the wayside. Bit New Years resolutions are losing momentum at this point of the year. We aren’t seeing the results of our hard…

  • Let’s Talk about Money Honey

    My mid-life crisis manifested in a fear about my financial future. Realistically, I’m probably going to be fine. But at least part of that is due to my new-found understanding of (and fascination with) finances. If you’re anything like me, you’ve never been comfortable talking about money. I grew up solidly middle class, surrounded by…

  • Relationships Aren’t about Power and Control

    Trigger Warning: This post is about relationships and abuse and if you are particularly sensitive to those conversations this may not be for you right now. There are lots of different ways to talk about toxic relationships. That’s a large spectrum on which we see relationships with workload imbalances and relationships with physical beatings. Every…

  • Failing is learning

    As kids we try and fail at literally everything. It’s how we learn to walk and grab things and feed ourselves. Kids try everything. But somewhere along the line we lose that. As adults we have this idea that we’re supposed to know how to do everything without ever having attempted it. We watch a…

  • Being the Villain

    Being the bad guy is hard for a lot of us. Strong boundaries and being “mean mommy” goes against the nature of a lot of people for a lot of reasons. For children of trauma, reducing conflict is a gut instinct. For people accustomed to excess, strict rules and processes may not come naturally. Those…

  • Pride

    Do you remember the last time you actually stopped and were proud of yourself? I am terrible at this. I don’t know if this is a me thing or a woman thing or a family thing or just society in general, but I’m terrible at giving myself accolades. This is especially ridiculous for me because…

  • Adulting 101

    It’s that time of year when we all decide this is gonna be the year we get our s$#@ together. Good for you. Good for us. But holy crap is it overwhelming! Where to begin?? I don’t know that I could keep any of this stuff up on a daily basis for an extended period…

  • Full Disclosure

    Navigating a relationship is tough. That’s not news. But for those of us still learning how to have a relationship and be in a relationship and communicating in a relationship, every minute is a learning experience. And sometimes that’s exhausting. I had been largely single my entire life until my mid thirties. I was a…

  • Budgets Are a Girls’ Best Friend

    When BF and I first started dating we were not on the same page financially. He’d spent most of his twenties having adventures and odd jobs and hadn’t thought much about retirement. I spent my twenties getting into boatloads of education debt and starting my own business during a recession. I stressed about little else…

  • “If You Wanna Be Somebody,

    If you wanna go somewhere, you better wake up and pay attention” -Sister Act 2 This has been a recurring theme in my life in various seasons and stages. It’s an important one. We’ve stopped paying attention. I am super guilty of this. I’ll waste hours on Instagram reels. I’ll go down a Pinterest rabbit…