Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Self-Help

  • Good Habits

    We have the best intentions. And then life gets in the way. It’s so easy to fall back into our bad habits and give up on our goals when things get challenging or our plate gets too full. But it may be easier if we hack the habit-forming system. Tips to build the habits you…

  • Relationships Aren’t about Power and Control

    Trigger Warning: This post is about relationships and abuse and if you are particularly sensitive to those conversations this may not be for you right now. There are lots of different ways to talk about toxic relationships. That’s a large spectrum on which we see relationships with workload imbalances and relationships with physical beatings. Every…

  • Failing is learning

    As kids we try and fail at literally everything. It’s how we learn to walk and grab things and feed ourselves. Kids try everything. But somewhere along the line we lose that. As adults we have this idea that we’re supposed to know how to do everything without ever having attempted it. We watch a…

  • Being the Villain

    Being the bad guy is hard for a lot of us. Strong boundaries and being “mean mommy” goes against the nature of a lot of people for a lot of reasons. For children of trauma, reducing conflict is a gut instinct. For people accustomed to excess, strict rules and processes may not come naturally. Those…

  • Pride

    Do you remember the last time you actually stopped and were proud of yourself? I am terrible at this. I don’t know if this is a me thing or a woman thing or a family thing or just society in general, but I’m terrible at giving myself accolades. This is especially ridiculous for me because…

  • Full Disclosure

    Navigating a relationship is tough. That’s not news. But for those of us still learning how to have a relationship and be in a relationship and communicating in a relationship, every minute is a learning experience. And sometimes that’s exhausting. I had been largely single my entire life until my mid thirties. I was a…

  • Freedom

    Different people in different places in their lives will define freedom differently. Maybe it’s the freedom to carve out an hour to exercise. The freedom to choose when and where you work. The freedom to live where you want to live. The freedom to buy what you choose. The freedom to opt to work or…

  • “If You Wanna Be Somebody,

    If you wanna go somewhere, you better wake up and pay attention” -Sister Act 2 This has been a recurring theme in my life in various seasons and stages. It’s an important one. We’ve stopped paying attention. I am super guilty of this. I’ll waste hours on Instagram reels. I’ll go down a Pinterest rabbit…

  • What’s Going on Here?

    NOT legal advice. Just life advice for those going through overwhelming things.