Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Self-Help

  • Prepare for the Worst

    I’m a big proponent of hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. I like contingencies, but I also like safeguards. The basics to cover to be generally prepared for the worst things: (caveats – 1. this is probably only applicable in the US but I’ll try to be broad enough that it’s useful…

  • It All Draws from the Same Well

    Have you ever had a day where you spent the whole day in a meeting sitting listening to people talk and you come home EXHAUSTED? You’ve been sitting all day long but you have zero energy left. Have you had a day where you are dealing with grief or trauma or helping someone else deal…

  • Micro-Joys

    There is much studied and written about the positive mental and physical impacts that regular gratitude can have. I will be the first to acknowledge I am terrible at this. I can’t get myself to sit down and meditate. I am terrible at journaling. I just can’t manage to stop my world and take the…

  • Set It and Forget It Finances

    It’s easy to get overwhelmed by budgets and financial decisions and paying off debt and saving for retirement and all the things you’re supposed to be doing when you’re in the throes of adulting. But when you filter it down just a little there are a few simple things you can set up and take…

  • Free up your free time

    In a world where we are supposed to be immediately accessible at all times because of email and texts and social media, it is easy to get overwhelmed by the noise technology brings to our lives. The flip side is that technology and automation can bring a lot of freedom to our lives if we…

  • Be Compassionate with Yourself

    Sometimes the world is overwhelming. Sometimes depression takes us down. Sometimes we’re just exhausted. Sometimes the “should” in the world is all-encompassing and we can’t figure out where to start so we just don’t start. Whatever the reason, be kind to yourself and meet yourself where you are. I watched a snip of a TED…

  • Rest Does Not Mean Sleep

    We need rest. Duh. Rest is more than just sleep. Your body needs to rest in many different ways. Prioritizing rest will improve your overall well-being. Be mindful of the ways you deplete your energy. Don’t give it away unintentionally. Protect yourself and your peace. Let yourself rest.

  • Who Do You Think You Are?

    Do you ever hear people describing you and completely disagree with their assessment? My dad will describe me to people using works like “brave” and “ambitious” and “confident”, and I have no idea who he’s talking about because it most definitely isn’t me. I think of myself as shy and socially awkward. I would call…

  • (Re)Building Confidence

    Sometimes things happen in life that shake us to our core. Other times it’s not any particular incident, but the erosion over time when daily challenges get in the way of our self-care. We find ourselves older and less confident or capable than we’ve ever felt. Often during or after a divorce my clients are…

  • Everyone Starts Somewhere

    It’s hard to keep things in perspective in this world of Insta/Pinterest/Reality curated everything. We hear everyone’s miraculous story about making bajillions of dollars selling printables on Etsy or losing thirty pounds almost instantly with whatever magical weight-loss plan they’re peddling and, at least for me, it can be disheartening. I am constantly fighting the…