Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Planning

  • Self-Sabotage

    So many of us have the best-laid plans and for various reasons we sabotage our own progress. I realized recently that part of the reason I self-sabotage is somewhere in the realm of anxiety and control. If I sabotage myself, then I know when it’s going to happen and it’s within my control. If I…

  • Use What You Have

    It’s so easy to daydream about things you’d buy or build or learn or get. And especially this time of year we are inundated with consumerism. We are shopping for others so we may as well buy ourselves a small treat or that thing we’d been eyeing for awhile. I am a huge culprit in…

  • Perspective

    It’s hard to get a sense of progress when we’re just trying to hang on day to day. Taking a step back and analyzing our lives is virtually impossible when we’re in the throes of it. I like to take a single data point and compare where things are every year on that day. For…

  • Strike While The Iron Is Hot

    We don’t always have motivation to do things. Energy fluctuates, interest levels fluctuate, time and availability fluctuates. I have spent my life being a champion procrastinator. But lately I’ve been able to make small inroads on that front. I’ve found myself with more energy than usual lately – I don’t know if it’s vitamins or…

  • The Value of Placeholders

    Everything in life has a season. We are inundated with social media posts giving us the impression that everyone is living their best lives all the time forever. In reality, we’re all just trying to keep it all together. There is something to be said for temporary “settling” – a placeholder while you focus on…

  • Low Hanging Fruit

    I find it really easy to get bogged down in the nitty gritty details of things. I want to learn the perfect caloric deficit to lose weight effectively. I want to know the exact amount I should be putting in my retirement to retire early. I pay attention to the minutia so much that I…

  • Test your Mettle

    I like my comfort zone. Even when I’m challenging myself, I’m very careful and have a strong sense of self-preservation. I’m not the one you’ll see finishing a race barely able to stand up. I’ll walk way before that. I’m not someone who applies for jobs I only have some of the requirements for. It…

  • Is it Worth Forcing it?

    I can think of a bunch of times in life when I hit a wall or barrier that made me stop and think about my path. Almost fifteen years ago this week I failed the bar exam. It was my worst nightmare come true. All the time and money I’d spent, the public nature of…

  • Just Start

    It’s hard to do new things. As adults we’re supposed to be knowledgeable. That often translates to us avoiding things outside our comfort zone. Trying something new becomes harder and harder the more we stay in our comfort zone. I assume I am terrible at just about everything. I assume I am mildly capable at…

  • Prepare for the Worst

    I’m a big proponent of hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. I like contingencies, but I also like safeguards. The basics to cover to be generally prepared for the worst things: (caveats – 1. this is probably only applicable in the US but I’ll try to be broad enough that it’s useful…