Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Mental Health

  • Stop Beating Yourself Up

    In the past few days especially I have had a number of friends and potential clients berate themselves for “putting up with so much” or something along those lines. They’ll talk about a million different ways their partners failed them and feel such shame for not kicking that person to the curb sooner. They look…

  • It All Draws from the Same Well

    Have you ever had a day where you spent the whole day in a meeting sitting listening to people talk and you come home EXHAUSTED? You’ve been sitting all day long but you have zero energy left. Have you had a day where you are dealing with grief or trauma or helping someone else deal…

  • It’s Not Your Responsibility to Make People Happy

    Some of us are people pleasers. Some people grew up walking on egg shells because they didn’t live in a safe place. People are averse to conflict for a million reasons. Many of us have to learn how to navigate a new relationship with a new person. I remember in college my roommate would periodically…

  • Micro-Joys

    There is much studied and written about the positive mental and physical impacts that regular gratitude can have. I will be the first to acknowledge I am terrible at this. I can’t get myself to sit down and meditate. I am terrible at journaling. I just can’t manage to stop my world and take the…

  • Life is a Garden

    I’ve gotten really into gardening lately and I find a lot of metaphors for life apply to plants.

  • Mantra Magic

    For those of us that struggle with positive self-talk, or at least remembering to plug into our positive self-talk, mantras can be really helpful. In my mind a mantra is like the headline to the full newspaper article. If we’ve read the article, the headline can trigger us to remember the information in the larger…

  • How do you Negotiate with Yourself?

    Do you have a healthy inner voice? When you are struggling, do you talk yourself up like you would a friend or family member you support? Or do you get down on yourself and tell yourself you’re a failure? The secret to success is to be your own cheerleader. When you’re alone and you’re struggling,…

  • Seasons of Life

    We are not meant to be achieving at the same level forever. So many parts of nature have seasons of productivity and seasons of dormancy, why wouldn’t we be meant for the same? I am my own worst critic when it comes to my productivity. I must be doing something, making something, contributing something, achieving…

  • The Best Revenge is None

    They say the opposite of love is not hate, the opposite of love is indifference. The truest test of your progress or closure about the end of a relationship is whether you can truly just nothing them. The ends of relationships can be so emotionally hurtful. When you’ve been together for awhile, you know what…

  • Be Compassionate with Yourself

    Sometimes the world is overwhelming. Sometimes depression takes us down. Sometimes we’re just exhausted. Sometimes the “should” in the world is all-encompassing and we can’t figure out where to start so we just don’t start. Whatever the reason, be kind to yourself and meet yourself where you are. I watched a snip of a TED…