Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Future

  • You are Doing Better than You Think

    We are terrible at reasonable self-analysis. Invariably we are our own worst critics. We second-guess every choice we’ve made and consider whether things would be better if we’d done things differently. Stop. You are where you are and you’re doing better than you think you are. You are trying. You are changing. Those two things…

  • We Can’t Hack Everything

    This is such a trend lately – every advertisement or online post is Five Quick Ways to XYZ. We are constantly pitched a cheat code or a hack or a quick way to circumvent hard work in order to get the outcome we desire. The reality is that the outcome isn’t nearly as desirably if…

  • Safety Net

    A friend of mine messaged me today to tell me she quit her job – her first professional, career, JOB job – without having another lined up. She was freaking out. She sort of had a plan, she’d loosely lined up additional work to fill the time and space and has a strong likelihood that…

  • Reward Yourself

    We don’t celebrate our wins much as adults. We have a hard time prioritizing the small victories in our daily lives. And even when we do celebrate the little things, we rarely reward ourselves in big or useful ways. When I was little any celebratory act was rewarded with treats. Ice cream or chocolate or…

  • Don’t Require an Apology

    In so many of my divorce cases, my client will spend so much time and energy being angry at the way their soon-to-be ex has treated them. That anger often dissipates after the first month or so – people learn to cope with their new life, they figure out what it’s going to look like…

  • Financial Hierarchy

    Money can be a lot of things. It can be scary or confusing, it can be freeing or limiting. It can create stability and confidence. It can generate feelings of guilt or greed or shame or envy. For me, money is a path to freedom of time. Budgets and debts and monthly payments take up…

  • Set Appropriate Goals

    We are all so tempted to dream big in the new year. We make vision boards and set big, bold, ambitious goals for things we wish to do or accomplish in the next 365 days. I am not a New Year Resolution person. I sometimes come up with a theme or a guiding approach I…

  • Forgive Yourself

    So much of what we do when we are young follows us into adulthood. Decisions we make about schooling, working, relationships, and how we solve problems as young adults has ripple effects that we end of dealing with for the rest of our lives. As an older adult the consequences of your young-self’s decisions can…

  • Find Enough

    We live in a world of hustle culture. We need more, we need to climb the corporate ladder, we need to have our kids in all the best activities and schools, we need to join all the right clubs and participate in all the things, and we need to make all the meals homemade, and…

  • People are Rooting for You

    It’s hard to trust when you’ve had family, friends, and relationships that have let you down. We develop lots of baggage and chips off of our heart that leave us more fragile than we once were. We assume that people are secretly speaking ill of us or we assume that we are a burden or…