Handling The Hard Stuff

Tag: Divorce

  • It’s Ending – Now What?

    I met with a woman yesterday whose story is similar to genuinely half of my clients – she has been served with divorce papers and is an absolute wreck. So many people find themselves in this circumstance and just panic. People react in a few different, and problematic, ways: It is completely normal to feel…

  • Judgment Free Zone

    Think back through all the times you have passed judgment on yourself. All the times you’ve said something cringy or put on a piece of clothing and poked at bulges or gaps. Think about all the times you have done worse at something than you expected, disappointed yourself, been embarrassed, been ashamed. And then erase…

  • Perspective is Hard

    Do you ever find yourself in an argument and you just do not understand why the other person has taken the position they have? They’re just ignoring all the brilliant facts you are presenting, or they are being petty and personal, or they are just. so. angry.? Have you ever stopped and tried to figure…

  • Holla “We Want Prenups”

    This may be the only time in my life that I’ve agreed with Kanye West. On this ONE thing, he’s not wrong. I know prenups get a bad rep. It’s one step worse and more taboo than talking about money. But if you’re ready to marry someone, you should be able to talk about both…

  • Relationships Aren’t about Power and Control

    Trigger Warning: This post is about relationships and abuse and if you are particularly sensitive to those conversations this may not be for you right now. There are lots of different ways to talk about toxic relationships. That’s a large spectrum on which we see relationships with workload imbalances and relationships with physical beatings. Every…

  • Being the Villain

    Being the bad guy is hard for a lot of us. Strong boundaries and being “mean mommy” goes against the nature of a lot of people for a lot of reasons. For children of trauma, reducing conflict is a gut instinct. For people accustomed to excess, strict rules and processes may not come naturally. Those…

  • Freedom

    Different people in different places in their lives will define freedom differently. Maybe it’s the freedom to carve out an hour to exercise. The freedom to choose when and where you work. The freedom to live where you want to live. The freedom to buy what you choose. The freedom to opt to work or…

  • Thought before Action If Time

    This is my mom’s mantra and I hear it in my head all the freaking time. But it’s pretty freaking useful too. There are absolutely times in life when we just have to make moves and go with our gut. We have to deal with what the world’s throwing at us. Do your best, keep…

  • What’s Going on Here?

    NOT legal advice. Just life advice for those going through overwhelming things.