Handling The Hard Stuff

Handling the Hard Stuff: A Blog about Life and How to Deal

It’s Ending – Now What?

I met with a woman yesterday whose story is similar to genuinely half of my clients – she has been served with divorce papers and is an absolute wreck. So many people find themselves in this circumstance and just panic. People react in a few different, and problematic, ways: It is completely normal to feel…

April 7, 2023
I Love Boring

I have never wanted to be special. I want to be average. I do not need to stand out in any way. Of course virtually nothing about me is average. But I have always been very comfortable being part of a system, just a cog in the wheel. The more we can systematize the more…

April 6, 2023
Everyday Excitement

We spend so much of our lives living for this vacation or that holiday or that special event. But what about the boring days? In a year we maybe have 30 or so holiday or vacation or special event days. That means 11 months a year are the average everyday life days. I think rather…

April 4, 2023
Handling the Hardest

What do we do when the world gets too hard? How do we deal when every headline is devastating news and we feel powerless? I am constantly torn between needing to do something and needing to bury my head in the sand. We can do both, but it must be with intention. You must take…

March 30, 2023
Communication is King (or Queen)

This may come as a shock to learn, but what we say matters less than how we say it. You can only communicate effectively when you know and adjust to your audience. If your audience isn’t listening, you may as well be alone in the room. And as we evolve into a society that communicates…

March 28, 2023
Burnout

If you’re like me or literally every one of my peers, you are experiencing or are teetering on the brink of burnout. We’ve been in the workforce for a decade or two now, we’ve started (and sometimes ended) relationships, we’re parenting, we’re becoming managers, we’re buying houses, we’re paying bills. We aren’t taking care of…

March 16, 2023
Start Somewhere

I’ve written before about the paralysis of analysis. We get so overwhelmed by the “bigness” of a goal that we just shut down. Just start. It doesn’t have to be good – it probably won’t be. You will be embarrassed, you’ll look back later and laugh at yourself, you will probably wish you’d done it…

March 14, 2023
Judgment Free Zone

Think back through all the times you have passed judgment on yourself. All the times you’ve said something cringy or put on a piece of clothing and poked at bulges or gaps. Think about all the times you have done worse at something than you expected, disappointed yourself, been embarrassed, been ashamed. And then erase…

March 10, 2023
What Does Boldness Look Like?

I’ve heard people saying “Be Bold” my entire life. That is so abstract though, what does it even mean? What does boldness look like for you? Does it mean not going to college and pursing a career in acting or sales? Does it mean living in a different country where you don’t have friends or…

March 9, 2023
Do you Give your Time to the Things that Matter Most?

In financial discussions, we talk about values-based budgets – you spend your money on the things you care about the most whether it’s travel or nice clothes or fancy restaurants. But we know that we have a limited amount of money to spend so we prioritize. Do you prioritize with your time? The concept is…

March 7, 2023