Handling The Hard Stuff

Category: Self-Care

  • Relationships Aren’t about Power and Control

    Trigger Warning: This post is about relationships and abuse and if you are particularly sensitive to those conversations this may not be for you right now. There are lots of different ways to talk about toxic relationships. That’s a large spectrum on which we see relationships with workload imbalances and relationships with physical beatings. Every…

  • Being the Villain

    Being the bad guy is hard for a lot of us. Strong boundaries and being “mean mommy” goes against the nature of a lot of people for a lot of reasons. For children of trauma, reducing conflict is a gut instinct. For people accustomed to excess, strict rules and processes may not come naturally. Those…

  • Pride

    Do you remember the last time you actually stopped and were proud of yourself? I am terrible at this. I don’t know if this is a me thing or a woman thing or a family thing or just society in general, but I’m terrible at giving myself accolades. This is especially ridiculous for me because…

  • Adulting 101

    It’s that time of year when we all decide this is gonna be the year we get our s$#@ together. Good for you. Good for us. But holy crap is it overwhelming! Where to begin?? I don’t know that I could keep any of this stuff up on a daily basis for an extended period…

  • Freedom

    Different people in different places in their lives will define freedom differently. Maybe it’s the freedom to carve out an hour to exercise. The freedom to choose when and where you work. The freedom to live where you want to live. The freedom to buy what you choose. The freedom to opt to work or…

  • “If You Wanna Be Somebody,

    If you wanna go somewhere, you better wake up and pay attention” -Sister Act 2 This has been a recurring theme in my life in various seasons and stages. It’s an important one. We’ve stopped paying attention. I am super guilty of this. I’ll waste hours on Instagram reels. I’ll go down a Pinterest rabbit…

  • From Scratch

    Another of my mom’s favorite phrases is “When you’re green you’re growing, when you’re ripe, you rot.” Essentially meaning, get out of your comfort zone and learn new things. But starting over is really really hard. And it’s daunting. It causes us anxiety and sleepless nights and we doubt ourselves and we question everything we…