Handling The Hard Stuff

Category: Self-Care

  • Everyone Starts Somewhere

    It’s hard to keep things in perspective in this world of Insta/Pinterest/Reality curated everything. We hear everyone’s miraculous story about making bajillions of dollars selling printables on Etsy or losing thirty pounds almost instantly with whatever magical weight-loss plan they’re peddling and, at least for me, it can be disheartening. I am constantly fighting the…

  • All things to All people

    We can’t be everything. I am the worst at this. At various points in my life I have absolutely been the Yes girl who never lets anyone down, never says I don’t know how to help, never says I don’t have the time. I will be there for everyone all the time for everything forever.…

  • Wanting wealth is not a bad thing!

    This feels like such a controversial statement in a knee-jerk kind of way. I have spent my career helping the underprivileged and working with non-profits and I come from an area with a lot of poverty. My parents were civil servants and no one in my family ever encouraged wealth or prosperity. I was raised,…

  • Faking it With Style

    I don’t know about you, but I have a REAL solid case of imposter syndrome. It’s gotten better with age, but I constantly live with the belief that other people know more than I do. So I’ve developed some tricks to fool myself into believing I can do whatever thing has me overwhelmed in the…

  • You Don’t Have to do the Hard Stuff Alone

    By it’s very nature, hard stuff is difficult to handle. The end of a relationship, the end of a job, and uncertain future, grief, loss, fear. These are all things that often try to deal with on our own. But we don’t have to! And honestly, we shouldn’t be dealing with this stuff on our…

  • Disappointment

    Disappointing people is the worst. I hate it. I am a people-pleaser. I am a helper. I am a problem solver. Telling people that I just can’t help them is the hardest thing EVER. But it’s necessary sometimes. There are a lot of reasons it’s good to disappoint people. Sometimes it’s necessary. And we have…

  • Accepting Help is Hard

    I am proud. Overly so a lot of the time. I firmly believe it’s because I’m the youngest in my family and felt like I always had something to prove. And I am beyond stubborn. So actually admitting I can’t do something – or everything – and need help is one of the most difficult…

  • Something is Better than Nothing

    Do you ever get caught up in the search for perfection? My dad calls it the paralysis of analysis. It is so easy to go down a rabbit hole and keep researching and stewing on a certain subject when really you just need to write the paper and turn it in. It is so easy…

  • Holla “We Want Prenups”

    This may be the only time in my life that I’ve agreed with Kanye West. On this ONE thing, he’s not wrong. I know prenups get a bad rep. It’s one step worse and more taboo than talking about money. But if you’re ready to marry someone, you should be able to talk about both…

  • Every Little Bit Helps

    It’s easy to get overwhelmed by a project or a goal or a wish. This time of year our grand plans for making 2023 the best year ever may be falling by the wayside. Bit New Years resolutions are losing momentum at this point of the year. We aren’t seeing the results of our hard…