Handling The Hard Stuff

Category: Future

  • Audit Your Circle

    There are a lot of studies that show that surrounding yourself with successful people improves the likelihood that you too will be successful. Define success however you want, but you are more likely to accomplish your goals if you surround yourself with people who are similarly driven and have similar goals. The opposite is true…

  • Where’s Your Money?

    I recently read an article that says 56% of women married to men leave the financial planning and investment decisions to their husbands. The same article shared the statistic that 80% of women lose their spouse to death or divorce. Regardless of gender, in a lot of relationships there’s one person that “handles the finances”.…

  • Fake It ‘Til You Make It

    If you’re going through hard times you may not be feeling the strongest or proudest or most confident you ever have. That’s okay. We all have seasons of life and we can’t be at our best at all moments. Don’t expect that you’re at your best all the time. We’re human. We have ups and…

  • Celebrate the Small Moments

    When you’re dealing with hard things, everything feels hard and sad and frustrating and exhausting. But sometimes you can find good small moments in a day full of awful. A friend was recently discussing dealing with the suicide of a long time friend of hers. She felt guilty for laughing at a meme online that…

  • (Re)Building Confidence

    Sometimes things happen in life that shake us to our core. Other times it’s not any particular incident, but the erosion over time when daily challenges get in the way of our self-care. We find ourselves older and less confident or capable than we’ve ever felt. Often during or after a divorce my clients are…

  • Ending a Fight

    I was just talking with someone about their divorce and they told me how they really just didn’t want to fight and wanted it to be over. But in the very next sentence they mentioned that they had gone to court to dispute a vehicle ownership and value and that they were disagreeing about whether…

  • I Love Boring

    I have never wanted to be special. I want to be average. I do not need to stand out in any way. Of course virtually nothing about me is average. But I have always been very comfortable being part of a system, just a cog in the wheel. The more we can systematize the more…

  • Everyday Excitement

    We spend so much of our lives living for this vacation or that holiday or that special event. But what about the boring days? In a year we maybe have 30 or so holiday or vacation or special event days. That means 11 months a year are the average everyday life days. I think rather…

  • Handling the Hardest

    What do we do when the world gets too hard? How do we deal when every headline is devastating news and we feel powerless? I am constantly torn between needing to do something and needing to bury my head in the sand. We can do both, but it must be with intention. You must take…

  • Communication is King (or Queen)

    This may come as a shock to learn, but what we say matters less than how we say it. You can only communicate effectively when you know and adjust to your audience. If your audience isn’t listening, you may as well be alone in the room. And as we evolve into a society that communicates…