What is your super power? If you’re anything like me it is VERY hard to brag about ourselves. I have finally come to a point where I can acknowledge that I am not bad at certain things. But it is virtually impossible for me to say I am good at something.

When did that happen? As kids we all think we’re amazing at everything. And everyone tells us we’re amazing at everything. I was an awesome hula-hooper as a kid. I never stopped singing, I loved colorful drawings, and I could make friends with any cat that crossed my path. Today none of those things are true.

I have come to terms with my failings and often say out loud he/she/I have “other gifts”. But do we ever stop to identify what those gifts are? What are you really good at? Are you creative? Are you compassionate? Are you a good parent or a good child or a good partner? Do you really relish career successes? Can you lift a bajillion pounds? What is your super power?

When life gets stressful I lose my sparkle sometimes. I get too busy and stray too far from my center. I stop being creative, I stop exercising, I stop checking in with my friends and family. I stop doing all the things that give me value in my own mind. And I lose myself. Coming back from that is hard. Doing an about-face when the momentum is going in the wrong direction is hard. But, as we’ve mentioned before, small incremental steps.

But think about where you shine. Think about what you’re really good at. Think about what makes you really satisfied. What can you do that you feel good about? Because that’s what gets the momentum going back in the right direction. Do a thing that satisfies you. Text a friend. Call someone. Think about it ahead of time so you know what brings back your sparkle. It’s free stuff, it’s expensive stuff, it’s digging in the dirt, it’s getting a pedicure, it’s curling up and binging a dumb show, it’s going outside to hike in the woods. It’s whatever brings you back to you. Sometimes finding your sparkle is hard. But we can do hard things.